Writing Love Letters

Writing loves letters to your spouse is one of the best ways to connect and stay connected on an intimate level.  When counseling a new client I usually ask when was the last time they wrote a love note to their spouse, or even uttered the words “I love you” to that person.  More times than not they either tell me never or that its been a long time.  Like most good things love doesn’t come easily and when it does come, it needs frequent nurturing and reinforcement.  I tell my clients to write their spouses love letters expressing their admiration and appreciation for the people they’ve chosen to share their lives with.  I instruct that one or more of the following expressions should be included in the love letter:

• Thank you for all that you do for me.
• You are beautiful in my eyes.
• I love you.
• Thank you.
• I’m sorry for the hurt I caused you.
• I appreciate you.
• I enjoy the time we share.

Just let the words flow naturally.  The following website is a great source of free e-cards (I happen to use it myself to find free e-cards to send my wife): http://umt.edu/home/postcards/.